I received a few questions about last post which is a good thing, so I took a few of the most frequently asked questions and answered them in this post.
You made a few connections to Romeo and Juliet during the posts. Could you make another connection to the play?
Assuming that no one died in the play and that everything I mentioned applies to the play, there is a chance that Romeo and Juliet could have had a successful marriage, but they would have had to have been ready first. Being engaged after 1 day will certainly have a lower chance of a successful marriage than getting married after a longer period of time and the same would apply to the play, but it is possible, if they were ready after 1 day. If that couple could pull it off, Romeo and Juliet could too.
Could you give more examples that show that you are ready to be engaged?
A couple more signs include loving the person when big events like weddings aren't going on, and if you are willing to make compromises so that your partner can be happy.
Would getting engaged after a couple of years guarantee a successful marriage?
No. It doesn't matter if you wait a couple of years or if you pull a Romeo and Juliet and do it after a day. There are no guarantees that your marriage will survive and be successful, but that also doesn't mean that it could work regardless of the time you spend waiting to get engaged. It is always possible to have to have success, but there are no guarantees.
And we are done. To summarize everything, it is possible to have a successful marriage after getting engaged a day after you meet someone thanks to readiness, but you are more likely to have success by waiting a couple of years. You should also comment on what question I should talk about next.
Monday, December 12, 2016
Sunday, December 11, 2016
The Question is Answered Again
A bunch of you guys in the comment section were complaining that I didn't provide much explanation for the question and that I should have gone into some more detail, so this post is being made to answer those requests.
Firstly, when I said that 2 years is a good time to know each other before engagement, it is because of the fact that you are able to work out problems together. These problems can be anything, like wealth for example, but like I said, it doesn't matter. Not being able to work out problems like that would hurt your chances of having a successful relationship, meaning that longer wait times would benefit you. Being able to know the person also wouldn't hurt either. I'd also like to elaborate a little deeper into my point about there being no normal time frame for getting engaged. As I said, 2 years is a good time to get engaged, but that couple I mentioned last post did get engaged in 5 days. Even though 2 or so years is pretty normal, there are always a few people who have much different time frames, like in Romeo and Juliet when Romeo married Juliet after only knowing each other for a day. It's also why I believe that Romeo would have benefited from waiting more than a day to get engaged, as the odds of his relationship succeeding would be higher due to him being able to work out conflicts. These people also have varying success rates.
Some of you also mentioned that I stated that you should be ready for engagement but that I never really talked about it, so here is my point. I personally believe that while time is important, readiness is the more important factor. There are certain signs that show that you are ready, such as if you enjoy your partner's company or if you have similar values. There are other factors to consider too, like knowing how the two of you will handle marriage or if you will have children, and things like being able to answer those questions are more important. I'm not saying that time isn't important, because it is, but if you want to be like the happiest couples, making sure you are ready is the most important step.
So to more thoroughly answer the question, while it is better if you know the person for a longer period of time, it is possible to have a successful marriage after knowing the person for only a few days, although readiness is more important. While more time would answer more questions about whether or not you are ready to be engaged, you can feel like you are ready to be engaged at any time really. As I mentioned before, a couple that married after knowing each other for 5 days has been happily married for 50 years now, showing us that a good marriage can be possible under those circumstances, that is, if you are ready.
I am also going to be answering some of your biggest questions about this topic, so if you have any questions, comment them below! I will answer them soon in a single post.
Firstly, when I said that 2 years is a good time to know each other before engagement, it is because of the fact that you are able to work out problems together. These problems can be anything, like wealth for example, but like I said, it doesn't matter. Not being able to work out problems like that would hurt your chances of having a successful relationship, meaning that longer wait times would benefit you. Being able to know the person also wouldn't hurt either. I'd also like to elaborate a little deeper into my point about there being no normal time frame for getting engaged. As I said, 2 years is a good time to get engaged, but that couple I mentioned last post did get engaged in 5 days. Even though 2 or so years is pretty normal, there are always a few people who have much different time frames, like in Romeo and Juliet when Romeo married Juliet after only knowing each other for a day. It's also why I believe that Romeo would have benefited from waiting more than a day to get engaged, as the odds of his relationship succeeding would be higher due to him being able to work out conflicts. These people also have varying success rates.
Some of you also mentioned that I stated that you should be ready for engagement but that I never really talked about it, so here is my point. I personally believe that while time is important, readiness is the more important factor. There are certain signs that show that you are ready, such as if you enjoy your partner's company or if you have similar values. There are other factors to consider too, like knowing how the two of you will handle marriage or if you will have children, and things like being able to answer those questions are more important. I'm not saying that time isn't important, because it is, but if you want to be like the happiest couples, making sure you are ready is the most important step.
So to more thoroughly answer the question, while it is better if you know the person for a longer period of time, it is possible to have a successful marriage after knowing the person for only a few days, although readiness is more important. While more time would answer more questions about whether or not you are ready to be engaged, you can feel like you are ready to be engaged at any time really. As I mentioned before, a couple that married after knowing each other for 5 days has been happily married for 50 years now, showing us that a good marriage can be possible under those circumstances, that is, if you are ready.
I am also going to be answering some of your biggest questions about this topic, so if you have any questions, comment them below! I will answer them soon in a single post.
Saturday, December 10, 2016
The Question is Answered
Q: Can marriage be successful after getting engaged a few days after meeting someone?
Welcome back guys. Today I will explain to you what I think the answer to yesterday's question is. I will do my best to explain my answer, so sit back and enjoy this article!
The first thing you need to know about this is that there is no typical time frame for people to get engaged. They can get engaged a few years after they first meet, but they can also get engaged after a few days. Obviously though, there is a certain time when you should be engaged for the most successful relationships possible, and that time is 2 years. This way, you can work some difficult conflicts out as well as have more time to get to know the person. I also found that based off of other studies and my own knowledge, the happiest couples generally knew each other for around 25 months before their engagement. This means that if you were to know someone for a few days, you wouldn't have as healthy of a relationship (Sorry, Romeo and Juliet).
This isn't to say that a healthy relationship couldn't happen though. I have heard of a couple before that was engaged after knowing each other for only 5 days. They have since been married for 50 years.
So I think those things right there answer the question. It may be better for you to actually know the person before getting engaged, but since people have had successful relations after knowing each other for only a few days, it really doesn't matter as long as you've found the right person and you are ready.
Welcome back guys. Today I will explain to you what I think the answer to yesterday's question is. I will do my best to explain my answer, so sit back and enjoy this article!
The first thing you need to know about this is that there is no typical time frame for people to get engaged. They can get engaged a few years after they first meet, but they can also get engaged after a few days. Obviously though, there is a certain time when you should be engaged for the most successful relationships possible, and that time is 2 years. This way, you can work some difficult conflicts out as well as have more time to get to know the person. I also found that based off of other studies and my own knowledge, the happiest couples generally knew each other for around 25 months before their engagement. This means that if you were to know someone for a few days, you wouldn't have as healthy of a relationship (Sorry, Romeo and Juliet).
This isn't to say that a healthy relationship couldn't happen though. I have heard of a couple before that was engaged after knowing each other for only 5 days. They have since been married for 50 years.
So I think those things right there answer the question. It may be better for you to actually know the person before getting engaged, but since people have had successful relations after knowing each other for only a few days, it really doesn't matter as long as you've found the right person and you are ready.
Thursday, December 8, 2016
The Next Question Revealed
I'm sure all of you know the play Romeo and Juliet right? Good. If you don't remember, there is a scene in the play where Romeo sees Juliet for the first time at a party. It is here that he immediately falls in love with her and decides that he wants to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. There is one thing to note though. Romeo and Juliet get married after the party, but they only knew each other for like a day instead of waiting a while to get married.
It turns out that a lot of you know this scene too, as tons of you have asked me to make my next question on whether or not they can even sustain a successful marriage after only knowing each other for a little amount of time, so for the next few days, expect me to make some posts on my opinions on this topic, as well as answer some questions that you readers may have. I hope you get excited!
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